The Simtropolis Closet

[jmusshorn 7]

Hahaha, well believe me I mean he's not anorexic. He does have a very petite frame, however. He's thin, but it looks good on him. Usually I like them a little brawnier as well.

[Dark Avatar 8]

Well I've been lurking around this thread for quite some time now and I think I might as well tell you guys that I'm gay too. I just recently came out to 2 very close friends of mine and I was so relieved to find out that they are ok with at they find it quite cool to have a gay friend lol.I hope one day I'll be able to find cute and nice boyfriend to be with lol. It'll be so much fun!

But I'm really afraid of coming out to my parents. They're quite narrow minded on this kind of stuff and my relatives are very religious catholic. Even worse, gay sex is illegal here! The law was a hungover from British colonial times and even till now, the law has not been repealed...yet. We're still living in the Victorian era! Sometimes I wish that Singapore would be more liberal with it's laws. The government claims that you are free to be gay but it's just that you cant have sex. Not good enough for me I say.

 

If the don't repeal by the time I grow up, I might even immigrate. I really think that the odds are really stacked up against me. Living in a conservative country with a downright stupid law and having a family who is very religious and conservative. I'm still wondering if I should tell my parents or now when I grow up. I hope they will not disown me or break off contact with me. It will be horrible if they did.

[ephorex_77 0]

Well, as a Catholic, and someone from Malaysia...I can tell you the odds are stacked against you indeed.

You know as well as I do that Asians are very...particular about this subject. Heck, even hetero relationships make some of them blush and change the topic.

 

Ah well, I hope you come to terms with this situation soon. Good luck.

[Zelgadis 638]

Welcome Dark Avatar!

If immigrating to another country is something you need to do for yourself in the future, then go for it. I speak from experience when I say that it can be done and the results are rewarding.

Good luck with doing whatever you have to do!

ISF

[mcarch 15]

jmusshorn:  How is it coming along with your friend?

Oh and just becauase a stright guy has a girl-friend if you get my drift, doesnt mean hes stright.

 

Im having this problem as of late.  There is this guy Ive been talking to.  Hes really great and all.  However there is one problem.  He lives about 1,000 miles away here in the US.  He says he will come up with the money to meet me in about a month.  What do you guys think I should do?

 

FYI:  Ugh, why is it that guys with accents get ya every time?!  Hes from Georgia, Im from Nebraska.

[jmusshorn 7]

mcarch: Honestly, I would go for it. However, I must say that you have to absolutely make sure that this person is who they say they are. Do some verification on your own, know what I mean? Like maybe live webcam if you haven't already. Also study this person's photographs; if you can see people like his friends and family, and maybe even get a chance to speak to them as well, that would probably be in your best interest. I'm sure you've done at least some of this already, but it's always good to make sure that everything's on the up and up.

 

*Wonders if SkiGeek is gonna yell at me for temporarily stealing her job as Cyber Mom*

 

Anyway, yeah. I don't know if I wanna go out with him or not. He's already going out with that other girl, and I really don't want to break the two of them up; they really really like eachother. I'll just wait until I can go to the mainland and find someone worth keeping.

 

There's gotta be someone out there for me, right?

 

~Jamie~

[Meg 368]

Date: 12/24/2005 7:19:58 AM Author: jmusshorn

 

*Wonders if SkiGeek is gonna yell at me for temporarily stealing her job as Cyber Mom*

 

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Well, you left out something. 

 

Specifically, anyone underage should not agree to meet, in real life, with anyone they know from the internet, unless they have a trusted adult with them.

 

[DuskTrooper 314]

*opens closet door*
*tosses junk into it*
*makes sure the old skeleton is still there*
*finds 20 bucks on the ground, and takes it*
*closes closet door, and locks it, and goes back on his business*

[Zelgadis 638]

*whacks dusktrooper over the head with my cane until he gives my 20 bucks back.*

And what's all this junk you threw in here? *goes through junk* What's this? A Hooters coupon? You can have this back pal.

Well, mcarch sez he's 21 in his profile, so go for the meeting! Still, I'd choose a public place to get together the first time.

And at the accents part. Nobody here has heard my voice, but I can have quite a twang when the situation calls for it, I reckon.

ISF

[sloppet 3]

edited. off topic. Mr. C.

[vidioman 21]

^

I don't think he gets it!

[DuskTrooper 314]

Date: 12/24/2005 4:41:02 PM
Author: vidioman
^


I don't think he gets it!

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This closet is for everyone to use, actually!

*tosses another skeleton into the closet*

[vidioman 21]

Date: 12/24/2005 5:05:31 PM
Author: DuskTrooper
*tosses another skeleton into the closet*

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Stop doing that!!

This isn't that kind of closet. Jeez.

[jmusshorn 7]

Date: 12/24/2005 9:08:34 AM Author: SkiGeek

Date: 12/24/2005 7:19:58 AM Author: jmusshorn

*Wonders if SkiGeek is gonna yell at me for temporarily stealing her job as Cyber Mom*

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Well, you left out something. 

Specifically, anyone underage should not agree to meet, in real life, with anyone they know from the internet, unless they have a trusted adult with them.

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Indeed. And this is obviously why I am not the Cyber Mom.

 

Thanks for adding that, Ski.

 

~Jamie~

[GingerBlokey 30]

Ow! That skeleton hurt. I was having our annual Gay Christmas Party and you nearly killed the DJ in the middle of Wham!. Honestly.

[mcarch 15]

LOL!

Yes I am 21... soon to be 22.  I have met people off the internet before.  Ive just not really had a long-distance relationship before.  He really sounds sincere about wanting to start something and meeting within the next month.

 

I have cammed with him before.  Actually hes allowed me to see him (G-Rated Only).  I don't do that kinky stuff... plus I dont have a web cam.  He is who he says he is.

 

Thanks guys for the comments!

Oh and BTW the names Matt

 

zelgadis:  I can hear your accent by you saying... I reckon.  Its just soooo attractive!

[vidioman 21]

Date: 12/24/2005 7:32:28 PM
Author: GingerBlokey
Wham!

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NEVAR!

*puts on good music*

[sloppet 3]

edited. Off topic. Mr. C.

[jmusshorn 7]

Date: 12/25/2005 3:43:51 AM Author: sloppet Well, I have to say those 1987 snickers are quite good... they stink a bit, but they're good

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I think that you were right, Vid.

[vidioman 21]

Date: 12/25/2005 5:54:39 AM
Author: jmusshorn

Date: 12/25/2005 3:43:51 AM Author: sloppet Well, I have to say those 1987 snickers are quite good... they stink a bit, but they're good

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I think that you were right, Vid.

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Oh, I'm always right.

He's just a little... confused

[TheCrybKeeper 301]

edited for content. Mr. C.

[vidioman 21]

edited for content. Mr. C.

[guinea 31]

 

edited for content. Mr. C.

[vidioman 21]

edited for content - even the invisible part. Mr. C.

[TheCrybKeeper 301]

edited for content. Mr. C.

[ephorex_77 0]

edited for content. Mr. C.

[TheCrybKeeper 301]

edited for content. Mr. C.

[vidioman 21]

 edited for content. Mr. C.

[Zelgadis 638]

Good color idea.  I use this in my CJ and I think I shall use it in the Closet too.    This one is my favorite.  (And for the record, color # 990099 is mine!  )


As for this thread as a whole, many mods and admins have given their approval of it when they posted here earlier.  The debate over whether or not this belongs here was settled long ago.

The question of why this is allowed when religion is not is a red herring.  It's a seperate issue.  And if one was allowed, I simply wouldn't go there.  No reason for me to as I studied comparative religion for 4 years and also I doubt I'd find any Shinto buddies to share my own religion with.

Finally, for the question as to why this needs to be talked about, I shall let the American Psychological Association do the talking for me:

Why Do Some Gay Men, Lesbians and Bisexuals Tell People About Their Sexual Orientation?

Because sharing that aspect of themselves with others is important to their mental health. In fact, the process of identity development for lesbians, gay men and bisexuals called coming out, has been found to be strongly related to psychological adjustment; the more positive the gay, lesbian, or bisexual identity, the better one's mental health and the higher one's self-esteem.

Why Is the Coming Out Process Difficult for Some Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual People?

For some gay and bisexual people the coming out process is difficult, for others it is not. Often lesbian, gay and bisexual people feel afraid, different, and alone when they first realize that their sexual orientation is different from the community norm. This is particularly true for people becoming aware of their gay, lesbian, or bisexual orientation as a child or adolescent, which is not uncommon. And, depending on their families and where they live, they may have to struggle against prejudice and misinformation about homosexuality. Children and adolescents may be particularly vulnerable to the deleterious effects of bias and stereotypes. They may also fear being rejected by family, friends,co-workers, and religious institutions. Some gay people have to worry about losing their jobs or being harassed at school if their sexual orientation became well known. Unfortunately, gay, lesbian and bisexual people are at a higher risk for physical assault and violence than are heterosexuals. Studies done in California in the mid 1990s showed that nearly one-fifth of all lesbians who took part in the study and more than one-fourth of all gay men who participated had been the victim of a hate crime based on their sexual orientation. In another California study of approximately 500 young adults, half of all the young men participating in the study admitted to some form of anti-gay aggression from name-calling to physical violence.

What Can Be Done to Overcome the Prejudice and Discrimination the Gay Men, Lesbians, and Bisexuals Experience?

Research has found that the people who have the most positive attitudes toward gay men, lesbians and bisexuals are those who say they know one or more gay, lesbian or bisexual person well: often as a friend or co-worker. For this reason, psychologists believe negative attitudes toward gay people as a group are prejudices that are not grounded in actual experiences but are based on stereotypes and prejudice.

Furthermore, protection against violence and discrimination is very important, just as it is for other minority groups. Some states include violence against an individual on the basis of his or her sexual orientation as a hate crime and 10 U.S. states have laws against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.

You may read this article in its entirety here.

ISF

One s

[vidioman 21]

If you call 990099, I call 660000, 666600, 006600, 006666, 000066, 660066, and any other variation involving 0s and 6s, since I use them the most.

Good article, BTW.