Crush

[fartboy 17]

There's this girl I like in school, really smart and really nice, but I'm too much of a coward to say anything. I wish she played SC4 (I have no idea) so she could read this. If she does, the school is JV, her name is Larissa. Aside from that slim chance of her seeing that, what should I do? I really like her but am afraid of being shot down.

[lllooopop 0]

Well I can only say that You'll never know until u try.

[your_adress_here 11]

Just go up to her and tell her how you feel. The worst thing she can say is that she doesn't like you, and that's that.

[lllooopop 0]

Does she live close to you

[simwario 95]

If i were you, i would asked her. You have nothing to lose, but a lot to win.

[greedygreg 1]

Just walk up to her and talk. Don't think, just do. thinking will only make you nervous, then you'll back out. And if she doesn't like you, screw it and move on to the next.

good luck!

DISCLAIMER: this advice comes from someone who has never had a g/f or even been on a date in his 20 years of existance on this planet. greedygreg is not responsible for any broken hearts, dashed hopes, hurt feelings , embarassement, stalkers, relationships from hell, etc, etc. Be advised to make a move at your own risk.

[The Terminator 0]

some tips:

If she is a prep dont go for her, preps suck.

 

If she treats you like crap, threat her like crap(but no violence)

 

Act cool around her, dont do anything stupid.

 

 

[A Nonny Moose 8,261]

If you don't play you can't win.
Faint heart never won fair lady.
Screw your courage to the sticking place.

Go talk to the lady. If you don't you may be missing your life's best friend.

[Equinox 1,209]

^ a very good point. ^
If you talk to her, there are three outcomes (theoretically):
(1) You'll discover she's a jerk and somebody you don't want to do anything with.
(2) You'll discover that she is really nice and likes you in return; maybe not as much as you like her, but you can work on that.
(3) You'll find a soul mate.


I'm kind of in the same situation ...
I always find it easier to talk openly online.
I have no idea if that kind of thing applies to you or not...

That's just me, though - In real life, I'm too muddled with my self-image and that sort of stuff to even try talking openly with girls I really have crushes on. *sigh*

I also agree with the prep comments; they sound a bit rude, but it's really true ... you never want to get involved with people like that unless you're in it only for ... well, let's just say things other than friendship.


Also, remember this: don't be attracted to a person solely for looks. Ask yourself the question: are you interested only because of how she looks? If the answer is yes, then ... you're like me until recently; hahaha. Trust me though, if you find somebody who's really nice and has an awesome personality - a person you can appreciate and really enjoy talking to - you'll be significantly happier than if you find one you simply like looking at. Or, you could get the best of both worlds ...

I know how hard it is to approach somebody you hardly know (or even don't know), and talk to them; I've had experience with that. I wish I was better at it, too. However, once you do it and discover what the outcome is, you'll feel a lot better - I promise.

[fartboy 17]

Good point, especially by greedygreg, thinking sucks. But the problem is, until friday, I'm in none of her classes and don't know where she lives. Thanks 4 ur advice and hopefully I can tune out the little voices in my head that tell me to kill... I mean run.

[DuskTrooper 314]

This is why I avoid early releationships, since most of them end up in a huge stemaing heap of failure. It's best just to be friends for now, if anything.

[The boy formerly known as Evil Muzz 27]

I'm not really in a position to say, but I think DT is right. How old are you? I'm guessing around 15 or 16? If so, don't try to get into a deep relationship because at an early age, especially at teenage years it can result in your hormones taking over and going crazy if it goes wrong.

First I would suggest looking for signs that she likes you too, if she keeps looking at you but trying to hide it (like looking all around and accidently looking at you). Or maybe asking you for help in class.

Next if you are going to ask her out, just be yourself. Don't be someone your not. Tell her the things you like and what you don't like and don't change them to suit her or to look better. Or you could wait until a dance or a prom and ask her to be your date then.

 

Of course if you don't want this, be like me. I'm friends with a couple of girls. A friend can be just as good as a girlfriend/boyfriend. And then wait until you are older to decide whether or not to start a relationship. I'm not going into any seriuos relationship until Uni. You could try it at college or Uni if you plan to do that.

 

Good luck!

[dev 47]

Date: 3/16/2005 8:56:22 PM
Author: The Terminator

some tips:

If she is a prep dont go for her, preps suck.

If she treats you like crap, threat her like crap(but no violence)

Act cool around her, dont do anything stupid.

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Whoa! Bad Advice!

Don't act cool Be yourself, if she doesn't like that, then you shouldn't like her. I mean how can you marry someone because of their facade. If there is true love, they will love you for who you are, not who you act to be

Treat her like crap?! What is this?! If she treats you like crap leave her alone. Do not ever in any circumstance treat a lady/girl like crap, that is not a good thing to do at all

And if you like a prep, go for it.

For myself, I try to stay away from relationships. Trying to do this politely and correctly is hard to do. Some girls take it as if you just don't want to go out with them, some completely understand. Many girls have pitched fits and hated me for a few weeks until they got it lol Now we're just friends and it is great ya know

So, my best advice is just to be friends at an early age and throughout high school. Be close friends maybe, and in the later years of high school it may grow to something more. But I would recommend keeping away from relationships until college when you might actually think of getting married. I have seen many 'bad' things come out of young relationships. And Also from experience

Just be yourself, and stay out of trouble

[greedygreg 1]

Date: 3/17/2005 1:24:19 PM Author: dev  So, my best advice is just to be friends at an early age and throughout high school. Be close friends maybe, and in the later years of high school it may grow to something more.

and maybe not.

yeah, be a friend to her and all that, but if you want to be more than that, you have to let her know, and fast because once you're a friend, you're stuck at being just that..a friend. I have way too much experience in that department. Even in my dreams its lets be friends.

I hope the person who came up with the lets be friends exucse is burning in hell.

p.s.: never EVER treat a woman like crap, even if she has treated you as such. what goes around comes around.

[fartboy 17]

To answer some questions, I'm 14, so is she. She is cute, but I never like anyone for looks. I am nice to everyone unless they're a guy and push it (BAM). She is really nice and I've taken up some of your advice and actually managed to talk to her without fainting (lol). I'm not looking for a super serious relationship until later (My cuz has a new boyfriend every week, nuff said), but this one I want to put on hold cause I don't want to lose her to someone else.

Thanks again for all your advice

[lllooopop 0]

Lets be friends is a BUNCH OF BS. yeah lets be freind, yeah right.

[Ratieya455 1]

There was a girl I wanted to ask last year in school, but she had a boyfirend. Then, she transferred to a school that is hours away and broke up with him. I have no contact with her, and it is bothersome.

[Superstar 69]

Well most of us have had this prob including myself, though I was always SOOOO afraid of rejection so that I never asked or told her and it ended up that she'll be moving this year but most my feelings for her are gone by now so I don't mind that much

[A Nonny Moose 8,261]

Raging hormones notwithstanding, 14 is far to early to do more than a little non-heavy dating. You are a long way from being in a position to support the lady, and you certainly don't want any little accidents to have to legally support while you are trying to get yourself set up for life.

Cool it. Have a nice friendship. Who knows, maybe you will marry the girl next door in the end. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself, and be a kid.

[Big_Baazzoo 0]

Ask her if she likes going to the movies...everybody likes going to the movies.  We might like different movies, but everybody likes going to movies.  Then, if you do go see one together, it gives you something to talk about without inventing something, and you find out alot about a person talking about the movie.  Then, if it doesn't go so well, at least you got to go see a movie.

[greedygreg 1]

Date: 3/18/2005 11:18:25 AM Author: N_O_Body Raging hormones notwithstanding, 14 is far to early to do more than a little non-heavy dating.  You are a long way from being in a position to support the lady, and you certainly don't want any little 'accidents' to have to legally support while you are trying to get yourself set up for life. Cool it.  Have a nice friendship.  Who knows, maybe you will marry the 'girl next door' in the end.  Meanwhile, enjoy yourself, and be a kid.

that could have literally happened to me. Really, the girl next door (a few years back) is my best friend who I wanted to be with, but she's engaged now.  Oh well, At least I get to sample a piece of wedding cake.

excuse me while I go cry like a little girl.

[The boy formerly known as Evil Muzz 27]

Did you see that movie 'Hitch'...?

[Chris M 406]

 What I did last year when I found out that a girl liked me, I just talked to her alot and laughed with her when something funny happened and I am going out with her now.

Wish you the best luck !

[Superchan 23]

i would get to know her for a month then tell her how you feel about her.

[barrera_marquez 0]

You better tell it or everything's too late.

[ephorex_77 0]

Date: 2/11/2006 6:58:37 AM Author: barrera_marquez You better tell it or everything's too late.

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The last post was a year ago.

 

[Duke87 1,070]

looks like I have another medal to give out...

[The Terminator 0]

relationships...so pointless. me? personally i want to buy my own rowhouse in Newark, fill it with guitars, punk memoribilia and records, than go to my 10 year high school reunion so i can tell all the kids i went to school with how stupid they are, and how much living in newark and slaking off and drinking beer and listening to punk rock and being on federal assistance and not caring what the world thinks of you and taking the bus everywhere and shopping at discount stores reallly reallly really rocks over their mediocre pathetic suburban lives.

[Cjah 15]

Date: 2/11/2006 11:05:43 PM Author: The Terminator relationships...so pointless. me? personally i want to buy my own rowhouse in Newark, fill it with guitars, punk memoribilia and records, than go to my 10 year high school reunion so i can tell all the kids i went to school with how stupid they are, and how much living in newark and slaking off and drinking beer and listening to punk rock and being on federal assistance and not caring what the world thinks of you and taking the bus everywhere and shopping at discount stores reallly reallly really rocks over their mediocre pathetic suburban lives.

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Sounds like a sick plan....

 

[Meg 368]

Date: 2/11/2006 11:05:43 PM Author: The Terminator relationships...so pointless. me? personally i want to buy my own rowhouse in Newark, fill it with guitars, punk memoribilia and records, than go to my 10 year high school reunion so i can tell all the kids i went to school with how stupid they are, and how much living in newark and slaking off and drinking beer and listening to punk rock and being on federal assistance and not caring what the world thinks of you and taking the bus everywhere and shopping at discount stores reallly reallly really rocks over their mediocre pathetic suburban lives.

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Hate to break it to ya, Term, but buying a house, rowhouse in Newark or otherwise, involves either having enough money to buy it or getting a mortgage, which involving being able to demonstrate a steady income.

 

As my grandmother was fond of saying The world doesn't owe you a living.