The Simtropolis Closet

[Zelgadis 638]

Date: 7/23/2005 1:14:37 PM
Author: XSpiderman
Wait...Ian McKellan is gay?!

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Yep!

And still a big cutie-pie after all these years.

He has the most amazing eyes I've ever seen in my life. (Sorry Jemi)

ISF

[jmusshorn 7]

Haha, s'ok.

 

*Runs towards corner*

 

You're just a big doodie-head! *Hides*

 

[thatmonkeysim 8]

doodie head?? how childish!!

[jmusshorn 7]

Wow... I'm kind of in shock at the moment...

 

A previous enemy/friend of mine, whom I've known for over 10 years, just told me that he's bisexual and that he really likes me...

 

Only problem is his girlfriend at the moment is an extremely good friend of mine, and it would simply be weird to try and go out with him at all. She exhibits the fact that she really doesn't care about him all that much on a regular basis (i.e. She told me she would break up with him if I wanted to go out with him), and that kinda makes me feel bad because he really seems to like her.

 

Damn, I'm so confused. I've known him for what feels like eternity, and I really do like him.

 

I know I come mooching for advice quite often, but does anyone think that they can help me out?

 

Thanks alot in advance.

 

~Jamie~

[GingerBlokey 30]

Oooh thats a sticky mess. Id say if he is a nice person you can see yourself in a long term relationship with go for it.

Oh what the bollocks am I talking about if hes hot go and get him.

[Zelgadis 638]

Yeek, sticky situation indeed.

From where I'm sitting (which is admittedly pretty far away from the situation) the crux of the matter lies with him.

I would say something to him like this: You know, dating me would be very likely to seriously jeopordize your relationship with your girlfriend. Note his response and go from there.

That's my advice based on my very limited knowledge of the situation. Take it with a grain of salt.

ISF

[jmusshorn 7]

Well, I do have to say that he's extremely good looking in my opinion, but perhaps I'm a tad biased because I've known him for a long time and I know him really well.

You know what they say though; friends make the best lovers.

I hope they're right. I'm gonna go for it. She'll understand; I mean, she's already got her eye on another boy at our school, so I think she'll bounce back just fine.

Good luck to me.

[Zelgadis 638]

Whoa, racy new avatar you have there, Jamie. Might get you an AO rating from the ESRB though. You know how they can be.

So, I thought the issue was with he who is courting your favor, not his girlfriend. Must have misunderstood that. Well, if her attitude is that clear and she's the only one you're worried about, have a nice date.

ISF

[masher 3]

Go lilo!...Go lilo!
Jesus!! girl why are you still waiting if she just wants to get rid of him?

[jmusshorn 7]

 

It's a matter of personal ethics... But it's becoming quite evident that he likes me... Alot.

 

Anyway, things seem to be looking up, and I'll be talking to her tomorrow about the whole situation.

 

Luck to me!

[vidioman 21]

~edited~. This thread got long[]

My mom likes Anderson Cooper, and doesn't know he's gay.. I can't bring myself to tell her. She doesn't even pay attention, just stares at his eyes through the show Pretty funy, actually.

 

She told me about how Ian McKellen was gay a long time ago (before ST, I think) when she watched the directors commentary version of LotR. At one scene, it has one guy kiss another on the forehead, and at first they didn't want to, and Ian said it was common at the time, and something about how he's gay or something (I wasn't paying attention. Italian flavoured doritos just came out, and I had a big bag of them)

 

I have a weird memory... yup.

 

~language~ A.C.

[confused04 14]

Anderson Cooper is gay? I guess it is true, you learn something everday.

[vidioman 21]

Date: 7/25/2005 5:08:40 PM Author: confused04 Anderson Cooper is gay? I guess it is true, you learn something everday.

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Well, he is the son of Gloria Vanderbilt (my grandma buys her crap. as in merchandise, not literally..)

 

According to Wikipedia, and he's not supposed to talk about it or it will violate his contract with CNN, or something. And they're always sending the poor guy to the most extreme of places, too..

[Zelgadis 638]

Long it has become indeed. You missed our little 2-page slap-fest we had awhile back. We're over that now.

Still waiting to hear back from Jemi. How are things going with your little dilemma?

ISF

[jmusshorn 7]

Well, things are cooling down... Kinda.

 

They're breaking up (for reasons entirely their own)! He says he wants to go out with me, and I'm happier than heck!

 

More and more luck for me!

 

~Jamie~

[GingerBlokey 30]

Great news Jmuss. Your so lucky. Get a picture of you and him on here.

[ephorex_77 0]

Date: 7/22/2005 1:46:29 PM Author: masher I dunno if this is the right place to post this ....if it isn't, remove it... I still feel like throwing up...

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The thing that shocked me more was the fact that the rape victim is actually killed along with the perpetrator of the crime. That and the fact that girls as young as 9 and boys as young as 15 are killed there...

 

Sharia law...

[+Guest]

I just want to make sure that my post earlier regarding the story in that link was not misconstrude. Please don't assume that I am not in any way disgusted (maybe even ashamed) by those events.

[GingerBlokey 30]

--IGNORE--

See below

[+Guest]

Well, I think that now you're out, you should be a bit more quiet about it. Don't push your luck. I've outed myself to ST, but I don't use it as an opener in a conversation or anything.

[GingerBlokey 30]

I dont use it as an opener. And actually MC6ash probably was in the right. I was being a bit in the wrong. Sorry MC and Everyone. I will be more considerate in the future. Im not prepare to give up a 1000-posting, bi-anaurianship over somthing so stupid and trivial.

 

-you're forgiven- MC6Ash

[Zelgadis 638]

Gingerblokey,

I empathize.

I didn't read your post from before as you seemed to erase it rather quickly, but I do have a bit of advice.

First of all, you are recently out. You are now testing the limits of where you are comfortable going as far as conversation. You will make mistakes. I made plenty in my first few months. The first was calling my brother sweetie. I thought it was cute, but he didn't care for it. It had nothing to do with my being gay, but rather that his wife is the only one who's allowed to call him that.

Whatever you posted up there, chalk it up to just-having-come-out uncertainty. It happens.

Secondly, my goal is to live my life as normally as possible. Now this is just me and how I live my life, so take what I'm going to say here with a grain of salt. It may or may not work for you.

I am a bit of an idealist, so I envision a world where it's as perfectly normal for a man to speak of his boyfriend as it is for his girlfriend. (Same for women) What this means is that I'm as casual about my homosexuality as another might be about his heterosexuality. If the subject of significant others comes up, for example, I'll refer to my boyfriend just as naturally as a heterosexual man might refer to his girlfriend.

Other than natural conversation flow, I don't bring it up. Some people prefer the Hey world, I'm gay! approach. Others prefer to wade into every conversation with extreme trepidation. I prefer something in the middle.

If the listener doesn't like it, that's his/her problem, not mine. He/she can go talk to someone else. And it doesn't force me to waste my time dealing with them. My lifespan is limited and spending it with potential gay bashers is not what I consider time well spent. Still, it's hard not to get drawn into a argument now and then.

I have found that my technique of treating my orientation naturally to be very disarming to people and most do not get the opportunity to engage in gay bashing if that's what they wanted to do.

For me, keeping quiet about it isn't an option. But I don't like to be in-your-face about it either. Both are antithetical to my personality. My way is right for me, sort of quietly screaming I'm gay! (Oxymoron, but accurate)

So, like I said, take that with a grain of salt. It's my way, but may not be yours.

ISF

[GingerBlokey 30]

Actually I havent got a clue what ATP was on about. The post above was about being banned from chat for discussing virginity. Zegdalis, Im like you. I dont slip it into most conversations. Most people have forgotten Im gay. I like to talk about my orientation as I would if I was hetro.

I have deffinetly experienced gay-bashing. Frank Buntain is such a twat. I have to do PE with him and when getting changed lets just call some 'awkward' situations happen. Everyone thinks its hillarious apart from me. Not good.

[Zelgadis 638]

Date: 7/26/2005 4:53:26 PM
Author: GingerBlokey
Actually I havent got a clue what ATP was on about. The post above was about being banned from chat for discussing virginity. Zegdalis, Im like you. I dont slip it into most conversations. Most people have forgotten Im gay. I like to talk about my orientation as I would if I was hetro.


I have deffinetly experienced gay-bashing. Frank Buntain is such a twat. I have to do PE with him and when getting changed lets just call some 'awkward' situations happen. Everyone thinks its hillarious apart from me. Not good.

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Whoops, I was afraid of this happening. I didn't see your original post, so I had no way of knowing how to respond.

The fact that I can't relate to your above example of gay bashing is both a blessing and a curse for me.

Naturally, who would want to experience that? That's the blessing part.

But on the other hand, as I stated in an earlier post, I didn't develop any orientation, gay, straight, or bi, until I was in my early 20's. I really feel cheated out of my youth in this respect.

ISF

[Joesocwork 4]

Date: 7/26/2005 10:59:47 PM Author: zelgadis

Date: 7/26/2005 4:53:26 PM Author: GingerBlokey Actually I havent got a clue what ATP was on about. The post above was about being banned from chat for discussing virginity. Zegdalis, Im like you. I dont slip it into most conversations. Most people have forgotten Im gay. I like to talk about my orientation as I would if I was hetro. I have deffinetly experienced gay-bashing. Frank Buntain is such a twat. I have to do PE with him and when getting changed lets just call some 'awkward' situations happen. Everyone thinks its hillarious apart from me. Not good.

Whoops, I was afraid of this happening.  I didn't see your original post, so I had no way of knowing how to respond.  The fact that I can't relate to your above example of gay bashing is both a blessing and a curse for me. Naturally, who would want to experience that? That's the blessing part. But on the other hand, as I stated in an earlier post, I didn't develop any orientation, gay, straight, or bi, until I was in my early 20's. I really feel cheated out of my youth in this respect. ISF

 

 

I'm not sure if I would feel cheated if I had experienced youth without bullies.  Anything can be used as an excuse for people who want to use others as a way to feel a sense of power they otherwise crave and can't truly get.   

[GingerBlokey 30]

Ive known about my orientation since I was 8 maybe 9. Many scientists think that being gay is somthing your born with. In fact I have memories of fancying boys as far back as my first year at school.

The problem with these bullies is that they truly lack any understanding of gay ... well gay-anything really. All they seem to be able to grasp is that I must have have a boyfriend and must be shunned because I may fancy them or want to catch a glimpse of their underwear during PE lessons. They also have this strange obsession that I would want to rape them.

[Zelgadis 638]

That's not really what I meant. I had more than enough experience with bullies. It's the other things that I never experienced. Young love, dating, etc. Shoot, I went all the way through college without having any romantic interest in anybody.

Well, at least I bagged a Japanese guy who seems younger than me, even though he's older. Makes up for it a bit.

ISF

[GingerBlokey 30]

Oh I see. Well I have not really experienced 'Young Love'. I fancy people all the time but I have never had a proper relationship.

[the_new_simman 5]

I'm watching you GingerBlokey...I'm watching you..

 

and no I'm not gay...

 

(just had to post this)

[thatmonkeysim 8]

LMAO!!! good one TNS!